Nowadays, it is not uncommon for people to read books on self
development, and while they can be looking for ways to change what is
taking place within them; they might be looking for ways to become more
successful. There is also the chance that they are looking to improve a
number of areas of their life.
Along with this, they might watch
videos and go on different courses, and if they get tired of reading
books, they could listen to audio books instead. This shows how
accessible information is in today world.
Dipping In
When
one starts to look for answers, it might not be long until their life
starts to improve. Once they start to see the results that they are
looking for, they might decide to take a step back, and to carry on with
the rest of their life.
If they were to experience an inner or an
outer challenge in the future, they could soon get back into it. In
this case, self development is not going to become a part of their life;
it will simply be something they look into at certain times.
A Way of Life
Alternatively,
one could find what they need and instead of taking a step back soon
after; they could continue to look for answers. This could be because
they have more challenges to work through and/or it could also be a sign
that it has become way of life.
When it is who they are as
opposed to something they do, it is not going to be possible for them to
dip in and out. It could then be said that they are committed to
gaining a better understanding of themselves, and that they want to
continually improve their life.
Support
If one is in this
position, there is a strong chance they will spend time with people who
have the same outlook. Through being around these people, it will give
one the chance to share what they have learnt, and for them to be
inspired.
Whereas if the people they spent their time with were
not into self development, they may have to deny this part of themselves
when they are around them. Instead of being inspired by the company
they keep, they could end up feeling discouraged.
Growth
It
can then be easier for one to grow, and through sharing their views with
others, it will give them the chance to see if there is another way of
looking at something. After sharing something, they might find that
someone else has the same outlook, or they may find that they have a
different outlook.
One can then listen to what they have to say
and decide if it would be a good idea for them to change their
perspective. They are there to support each other, and if one finds it
hard to stay motivated, they can also help them with this.
Different Outlooks
If
one has read a number of different books, for instance, they may have
come across a number of different outlooks. One can then identify with
one outlook, or they can take the time to reflect on what they have read
and come to their own conclusion.
Having said that, there is also
the chance that one could continually find that people have the same
outlook, and this could then cause them to believe that there is only
one approach. One could then try this approach and find that their life
improves, or they could find that their life doesn't change at all.
Going Down the Wrong Path
When
one's life does improve, it will be a sign that they have come across
the right information, and it then won't be a problem. They are not
going to be wasting their time, energy, or money, and it could be said
that they are on the right track, so to speak.
However, if one's
life doesn't improve, it could be a sign that they have come across the
wrong information. But because so many people have the same outlook, it
could be a challenge for them to realise that they need to try another
approach.
Personal
This could then cause one to believe that
there is something wrong with them, and this could then suffer
unnecessarily. Even though one approach will work for some people, it
doesn't mean it will work for everyone.
What this comes down to is
that human beings are not all the same; if they were, 'a one size fits
all' approach would work. When one can step back and see when something
isn't working, they can use their energy to find something that will.
A Common Outlook
If
one suffers from anxiety, feels down, attracts the wrong type of people
and/or has obsessive thoughts, for instance, they could end up being
told that it's 'all in their mind'. Therefore, in order for one to
change what is taking place within them or who they attract into their
life, it will be important for them to look at what is taking place in
their mind.
Through changing what is taking place, it should allow
them to change how they experience life. While this approach may work,
it might not, and this is because the body also plays a part.
The Body
When
one struggles with anxiety, it could be a sign that they don't feel
safe in their body, and this can mean that they are carrying trauma. If
one feels down, it could mean that they are carrying trapped grief in
their chest area.
If one continually attracts the wrong of type of
people, it may mean that one is carry trauma and/or has some emotional
processing to do. When one has obsessive thoughts, it could be sign that
they have an emotional build-up.
Going Deeper
What this
shows is that what is taking place in one's body can influence their
mind, as well as their life. Yet all the time the body is overlooked, it
can cause one to look for answers in a place where they can't be found.
Along
with this, one can also take on what their caregivers and ancestors
were unable to deal with, and this is done out of loyalty. As a result
of this, the cause of their problems are not going to be found in their
mind, and neither are they going to be found in their body.
Awareness
When
one is carry trauma and/or has and emotional build-up, they can be
assisted by a therapist/and or a support group. If on the other hand,
they are carrying what doesn't belong to them, they may need to have a
family constellation.
Prolific writer, thought leader and coach, Oliver JR Cooper hails
from the United Kingdom. His insightful commentary and analysis covers
all aspects of human transformation; love, partnership, self-love, and
inner awareness. With over eight hundred in-depth articles highlighting
human psychology and behavior, Oliver offers hope along with his sound
advice. Current projects include "A Dialogue With The Heart" and
"Communication Made Easy."
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